"I will go to the gym 5 times a week, every week."
"I will diet."
"I will save more money."
"I will be more positive."
Etc., etc., etc...
We focus too much on how bad the year treated us every year. I see posts all day on New Years Eve of all the things that went wrong during the year and how the following year will be better.
Well, if you're reading this that means you didn't die in 2013, so that's a good thing, right?
Sit down and reflect not only on what you disliked about the year, but give yourself some credit and also reflect on all the good things that happened. Focus on how to enhance those things for the following year. If there is something you absolutely don't like about yourself, then, yes, make it a goal to fix it but don't emphasize your whole resolution on that one thing. We start the year out wrong because we're already so focused on the bad things we did or happened last year.
"New year, new me" seems inadequate. New year, better me. It can only be better if you enhance yourself, not try to actually change yourself to a "new you." You are who you are. Live it, learn from it, and love yourself.
My New Years resolutions are based on my good and bad experiences in 2013;
1. Stay close with my family. 2013 wasn't an easy one but it brought me that much closer to my mom and my sister. I rekindled friendships from my hometown. I leaned a lot on family and friends that had gone through some of the same things I went through this year. I pray to be able to nurture and maintain these friendships and my bond with my family.
2. Be understanding. I had a baby this year! It really is making me take a walk in my mom's shoes. I understand and appreciate the hard work and sacrifices she has done to bring up two daughters on her own as a mother myself now. My sister is also going through her "I want to be independent and on my own" phase which I was just there in 2012. I try to give her understanding as well. I try to be more reflective of such things I used to fight about with my mom and sister. I have become more understanding as a friend. When I was in high school, my friend Courtney went through a lot our senior year and I didn't understand why she reacted the way that she had.. but been pregnant this year myself and having my own son, has given me a completely different perspective. Life definitely gave me a walk in her shoes and it's not easy.
3. Take life by the horns. I made a very big decision this year. I moved cross country to a city I barely know. If you want something, chase it and fight for it. Don't run away from your problems either though. Hit them head on. Don't be scared of them. I felt a lot of fear this year that I never want to feel again.
4. Work hard. If you're broke, work hard. If you're fat, work hard. If you're wealthy, work harder. If you're fit, work harder. Life gives you what you work for.
5. If you want something, chase it. Have the guts to do what you desire. Take risks. If you want a better job, go get it. If you want to finish school, you better jump on that band wagon quick. It's definitely my goal to finally finish my undergrad degree this year.
6. Chase WHAT you want, not WHO you want. Don't chase people. The people that are meant to be in your life, will be. Keep the people that love you and bring out the best in you. Cut off the ones that make you miserable, insecure, or scared. You're amazing.
7. Love yourself before anyone else. It'll be easy to love the rest when you learn to do love you. This year sent me on a downward spiral of hating myself, letting myself go. It made me an angry, unhappy person. Fight for yourself because no one else will. Get up in the mornings, do yoga, fix your hair, drink tea, learn something new, spend time with your loved ones. Get going!
8. Keep social networking to a minimum. This is probably my biggest resolution for 2014. I want to focus more on my son, my mother, my sister, and my good friends. I want to focus on making them happy and spending quality time with them rather than hiding behind a screen interacting with people that I don't know all that well. It also really hurt me this year to go looking for things I don't really want to know about.
9. Get breast implants. Okay, this one is probably a vain resolution but I just had a baby and I've been wanting implants since I went into puberty, okay! I deserve them and this will be the year.
10. Save a little money for a rainy day. Be realistic with this resolution. A dollar a day, keeps the creditors away. (I'm so witty! I swear I totally just made that up.)
11. Be a mom. A good mom. Save the best for last! This is my goal not just on this day, but everyday! I pray to live long enough to embrace all of Liam's milestones and love him like I've never loved anyone else.
Ultimately, I just pray for happiness, health, and wealth for my son, my mom, my sister, my friends, and myself. Thank you to everyone that walked with me down the ups and downs of 2013. It was a very blessed year. Good luck to you with all your goals and resolutions and may you and your loved ones have a beautiful, blessed new year! Happy 2014!
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